Okay, I’m aware that this is going to make me sound like a lunatic. But it’s more about me than about the dude. So whatever.
Anyway, I’ve always gotten really… personally upset when people go on and on about how HIDEOUS and DISGUSTING they find Benedict Cumberbatch. It’s like they can’t just say, “Oh, yeah, he’s not really my style. Got a weird face.” It’s as if you either thiink he’s attractive or you’re just HORRIBLY REPULSED AND OH MY GOD HOW COULD ANYONE LET HIM ON TV, HE’S THE UGLIEST THING I’VE EVER SEEN. There’s a lot of that on Tumblr and I can’t just Tumblr Savior it because people always use nicknames when they talk about him so that doesn’t really help. But I just figured out what it is that gets to me so much about it: it’s that Cumberbatch and I are very similar in that we both have very polarizing features. Either you find us reasonably attractive or you are actually offended by the mere act of having to see our faces. Every time I see a post about how he looks like a deformed lizard, I’m reminded of all those anons who like to tell me I look like “a horse with Down’s syndrome” when I have the nerve to post a personal picture. (Remember that time someone told me I looked like “a female version of Benedict Cumberbatch”? Still not sure whether they meant it as a compliment.) Even though I’m someone who tries very hard not to care about what other people say about my looks, it still gets to me to see that kind of snark, because it makes me wonder… what are those people saying about me? Behind my backs or anonymously? Like, wow, sorry your eyes were offended.
And it’s not even just about the dudes. Like, I am at the point where if I see someone make a Sarah Jessica Parker Horse joke, I automatically lose respect for them. What’s funny about that? OH MY GOD, SOMEONE HAS THE NERVE TO EXIST WITHOUT ADHERING TO SOCIETY’S SPECIFIC STANDARDS OF ATTRACTIVENESS. WE MUST ALL MOCK AND DEGRADE HER BECAUSE SHE’S SUCCESSFUL AND SEEMINGLY HAPPY IN SPITE OF THAT HIDEOUS, AWFUL, DEFECTIVE FACE. Ugh. Can we all just… not? Don’t do that? If someone is regarded as a “sex symbol” despite not being attractive to you, WHO CARES? They’re not hurting you by existing! It doesn’t fucking matter! I don’t find, say, Tom Hiddleston sexy, but I don’t go around telling all of his adherents that they should get their eyes checked!
Look, I’m sorry. I told you this post would be overly touchy. But it just strikes a nerve to see unconventional-looking people made fun of so insistently, because I know I am 100% “unconventionally attractive” if I am attractive at all. I’m not telling you to stop or anything, but just know that I’m totally judging you and wondering if you’re the person who told me I should kill myself because no one would ever want to touch my disgusting face that one time.
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- flowerswrappedinbacon said: you’re so right.
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- blackling said: PREACH. I know all that feel.
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- omgstephanie said: I lose a follower every time I post a picture of myself. I know the feels. I feels them too.
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- acciodaydreams said: THANK YOU. I thought I was the only one who felt like this.
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